You were created to love. So why not give in to it? Yes—give in. Fighting love is such a worthless cause. But we are more likely to fight love than let it happen to us. Usually we’re too distracted with trying figure out love and make it fit our ideas of love. We love ideas, not love. We love control, not freedom. We love definitions, not explorations. We love security, not risk—and love will always involve risk.
If you think it rather odd that a Christian talk this way, then consider how faith usually works. To put it bluntly, faith requires that we fall into God’s abyss. We must take the step and go over the edge when it comes to faith. We decide to live as if there really is a Divine Love out there who is focused upon our welfare. We choose to believe the impossible, the fantastic. And only when we’ve taken that step do we find something under our feet that turns out to be solid and reassuring—until the next time when a step of faith is required.
It’s the same with love. And I’m talking about Love—the Love that fuels the universe and keeps our hearts pumping and the rain falling. This love is in our DNA, and it’s always enticing us to give ourselves, forget ourselves, take chances with other human beings—in sum, jump off that cliff.
If you claim to love but never have that feeling of air under your feet, then your love is the pinched, fearful kind, and it has not yet grown into its potential. Divine Love includes chills up and down the spine—because you have no control over how anything will turn out. Love opens itself and welcomes rather than judges what comes in the door. This can be a scary way to live. But I think Jesus was into scary love. I think the saints took risks that most of us would never consider. And once they’d descended into that beautiful abyss and met their God, they wanted to keep jumping off the edges of things.
So, whether it’s a budding relationship with lots of unanswered questions, or a work of self-giving that looks impossible (think Haiti; think the gangbangers down the street; think government that must guide us through these times), take a chance and fall into Love. I’ll try to do this myself. Maybe later we can check back and tell one another how it went.